Part 2

May 3, 2007 at 10:51 am (adopted, adopting, adoption, adoption reform, birthmother, birthparents, first mother, justice, Uncategorized)

I was devastated. It was an unplanned pregnancy. I hadn’t told anyone. I was terrified. I had no clue what I was going to do. Yet I loved that baby more than life itself. She was my daughter. My little girl and she was gone.

I was an emotional wreck for weeks. The bleeding stopped in a day which should have struck me as odd but I was just relieved. I cried in the morning. I cried during the day and I cried myself to sleep. In all of the pain I failed to notice that my pregnancy symptoms were not getting any better.

I was still sick all the time. Still having problems keeping food down. I figured it was due to hormones and the stress.

A month later I was yet again in the ER for severe dehydration. They asked if I could be pregnant and I broke down crying. I told them of the miscarriage. They decided to do a pregnancy test just in case. I told them it was cruel but reluctantly went to the bathroom with their stupid little cup.

I will never forget what they said when they came back in my room. My test was positive. They said that maybe it wasn’t a complete miscarriage and my body still thought it was pregnant. If anything was left inside then it could have gotten infected and be causing all the illness. It was time for an ultrasound to see if there was an infection or tissue left behind.

I couldn’t look at the screen when they preformed the ultrasound. I didn’t want to see any left behind tissue. I didn’t want to think of my dead baby anymore. I didn’t want to see her too small body in my mind again.

Then I heard something I never expected. There was something left behind. Her twin. I had lost one of a set of fraternal twins. The second baby looked healthy. The heartbeat was good. They couldn’t tell if it was a girl or boy. I assured them I didn’t care anyway. I begged them to make sure the baby was healthy.

It didn’t seem real. How does that even happen? Why didn’t they catch that when I miscarried? How could they miss a second baby? They said there was no heartbeat! Where was the second babies heartbeat when I was in the hospital last time? ( I was later told that the first baby had blocked the second and hidden its heartbeat)

I didn’t know what to think. I was still mourning my daughter and now I had all the worries again.



  1. mama2roo said,

    How could that happen, indeed… Wow, Aislin, I can’t imagine how tough it is for you to be telling this story, and of course to have lived it. I’m sorry you had to.

  2. momseekingpeace said,

    That would be such an intense thing to go through, to say the least. To be thinking one thing and have another thing happen.


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