Spanking Adopted Children

April 28, 2008 at 1:11 pm (adoption)

I hadn’t really thought much about this until I saw a post on it last night. If the poster reads this I am most likely going to make her feel worse. I didn’t write this a first because I was worried about making someone feel bad or APs getting mad at me. I have this insane need to be liked. Tonight I just don’t care. This pissed me off and I have every right to say so.

This is one of those horrid moments when reality hits me. When I was pregnant I was told that the APs would be so much better than me. I was protecting my baby (from what I haven’t figured out) Blah Blah Blah. They never once mentioned that they could hit my baby and I would be powerless to stop them. Not once did it occur to me. I know that was very stupid of me. Yet I never hit my kids so if the APs were better parents naturally they wouldn’t. Right?

Wrong!! I have no idea if they spank. I hope they don’t. If they do they better pray to God I don’t find out. Its bad enough to hit a child but to hit a child that has already lost his/her whole family is disgusting to me. It makes me want to puke. It enrages me. If I ever find out anyone has hit ANY of my children there will be hell to pay



  1. Cedar said,

    My son was abused so badly that the police advised him at age 2 to leave that house for his own safety. They even had a safehouse he could do to. A lifetime of abuse.

    They are NEVER better than us. And in fact as they are not like our children, often they have NO empathy as they try to beat our children into “their own image.” They figure that the harder they abuse the child, the more the child will obey and start to fir their little mold.

  2. RJ said,

    Sorry, but when you gave up your kids you gave up your right to make those types of decisions.

  3. aislin13 said,

    First of all I didn’t give up a damn thing. Reading a whole blog often helps you avoid looking stupid. Second there is a special place in hell for people that further traumatize an already traumatized child. The child in question was adopted from foster care. She had already been abused and was now being hit again by her “new mommy” And lastly, if anyone ever ever ever hits ANY of my children they will pay for it! It has nothing to do with the right to make desicions. It has everything to do with a mother’s love and protection. Anyone that hits a child of mine will have it returned on them. It is sick to hit any child but hitting an adopted child adds a whole new layer to it. Thanks for playing though

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